Do you know how to wow your Valentine? Take a tip from Modern Manners Guy (via Sharp magazine)
Is chivalry dead?
No way, says Modern Manners Guy!
Check out his advice on how to knock the socks off your Valentine without spending a fortune or hiring a skywriter to proclaim your love. His advice is featured in this month’s Sharp magazine (Canada’s answer to GQ).
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By Legal Lad
When is it OK to post social media updates at work? (via Asthma Helper/Flickr)
When in a workplace environment, “at-will” employees can be terminated for any reasons, the least of which might be a misdirected Facebook posting, or a Twitter joke gone awry. However, various laws may also offer protection for posting certain kinds of content online. These include:
- Political opinions. Some states have laws prohibiting employers from disciplining or firing employees for political activities; thus, you may be protected from online comments in support of a particular candidate or party.
- Information about illegal activities. Federal and state law contains protections for “whistleblowers,” that is, employees who expose harmful or illegal activities of their employers. Some whistleblower laws may require that you report the problem to the government first–say, to a regulatory or law enforcement agency. But once that is done, you may be able to post about your discovery without fear of retaliation. Continue reading ‘Social Media on the Job Isn’t Always Bad’
By Modern Manners Guy
Do you know guest bathroom etiquette? (via Sustainable sanitation/Flickr)
When using the bathroom in someone’s home, be certain to leave the bathroom as clean as you found it. Put the toilet seat and cover down when you are done, and pull the door all but shut when you leave. If you’ve left the bathroom a bit smelly, you should make sure to use the fan or crack a window (if possible) to air things out a bit.
If there is air freshener present and you wish to use it, use only a small amount. A candle or match may also help to dissipate odors. And remember, when it comes to the debate between men and women about toilet seat positioning, the polite thing to do is for everyone is to leave both the toilet seat and cover down.
by Modern Manners Guy
If you’re confused about what to wear to an event, you’re not alone. Most of the really strange formalities have passed away along with the Age of the Debutante, but there are still a few gradations of formal dress you should be aware of.
White Tie – An invitation to a White Tie event is very rare, unless you know some diplomats. For a White Tie event, men should wear a white bow tie, white waistcoat, and black jacket with tails. Women should wear an elegant floor-length evening gown, gloves, and jewelry. Historically “Formal” meant White Tie, but nowadays Formal generally refers to Black Tie.
Black Tie – For women, this would have historically required a long dress, but today a short dress or evening suit may do. For men, this means tuxedo. A tuxedo should be worn with a tuxedo shirt with matching studs and cufflinks, a bowtie (preferably hand-tied), patent leather shoes, and either a cummerbund or a waistcoat (never both). If you wear a cummerbund, it should be worn with the pleats facing up. Continue reading ‘Your Guide to Dressing Up’
by Modern Manners Guy
What can be more American than a good ol’ fashioned grocery store? However, no matter how nice the amenities, sometimes it’s the patrons that will ruin the visit. So, here are my top 3 Quick and Dirty Tips for happy shopping:
Tip #1 – It’s Not NASCAR
I love my local, friendly grocery store. But unfortunately, it was turning into a NASCAR track! Carts carelessly whip around the aisles, at unheard of speeds. While grocery shopping, don’t rush. There’s no need to make it an all day trip, but you’d be
Do you have proper grocery store etiquette? Photo courtesy of Getty Images
amazed at how relaxing it can be if you took your time. Also, drop the cell phone. If you have one hand on your phone, how can you maneuver the cart? Try a headset, if you are taking calls.
Tip #2 – Over the Limit?
This is a great concept that works if you follow the directions. Which is easy — only bring in the limit of food that the line says. Done! If you have more, step out of line and join the regular one.
Continue reading ‘Grocery Store Etiquette’
By Modern Manners Guy
Some events require punctuality, while others are more casual, where it’s acceptable to be fashionably late. Let’s break it down:
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By Modern Manners Guy
These days you can exercise in private gyms, office gyms, public gyms and even just the great outdoors. With more people exercising as of late, herds of new gym-goers are bringing different ideas of what’s acceptable to gyms across the country. Here are a few areas where things can get a bit awkward, but with these tips you can retain your poise and dignity AND get a ripped physique.
- Appropriate Workout Attire: Frankly, there are some workout clothes that absolutely should not be worn by anyone. Anything see-through (especially when sweaty) or too revealing should be covered by at least one more article of clothing. There are folks that go to the gym to see and be seen, but that’s not what a gym is for.
- Etiquette for the Gym Machines: Most gyms have a policy for how long you can use each treadmill, bike, or other piece of equipment at a time—especially during the busiest hours. Please follow these rules. If you’ve waited your fair share of time, try to get the errant person’s attention. If ignored, head over to management, but be careful since it will create an even bigger rift. However, it will make your point. Oh, and if you get a little sweaty, please clean up after yourself.
- Not Socially Networking: Save all the chit-chat for the few minutes before and after something like an aerobics class or for the parking lot. Most folks either can’t talk while doing the treadmill or don’t want to talk because they are focusing on lifting weights and getting results. Just be sensitive to those who are serious about their workouts and save your conversation for outside the gym. If someone approaches you when you’re in your zone, just ask, “Can we chat later?”
- Locker Room Etiquette: This is yet one more part of the trip that should probably not be a social event. Though there are folks who can handle locker room conversation in stride, most folks find it mortifying, especially if they suddenly run into someone from the office. Just be sensitive to the fact that not everyone wants to have a meet-and-greet in their unmentionables. And if someone approaches you in the locker room with intent to chat, feel free to let them know that you are much more comfortable conversing when everyone is fully clothed.
This can be an uncomfortable place (via flattop341/Flickr)
By Modern Manners Guy
Strict traditionalists will tell you that you should not just say “Pardon me” if you accidentally bump up against someone in a crowded space. “Pardon” is a command, and it would be rude to command someone to pardon you after you’ve committed some infraction against his or her person.
Try “I beg your pardon” or “Please excuse me” instead– now you are asking for forgiveness for your terrible transgression. In modern times, however, everyone more or less understands that “Pardon me” is intended as an apology for something intrusive or unpleasant.
It's easy to rub someone the wrong way in crowded places like Times Square (Devon_Maid/Flickr)
If you unintentionally push, jostle, bump or otherwise upset a person or his belongings, apologize or ask for forgiveness. In such a case, it would be fine to say something as elaborate as “I’m terribly sorry, I beg your pardon,” or as simple as “So sorry” or “Pardon me.” It is also reasonable to scale your response based on the situation; gently bumping someone in the airplane aisle versus spilling a glass of wine in someone’s lap deserve different levels of apology.
You may also beg pardon or apologize for something you are just about to do. For example, if you need to leave the table in the middle of the meal, it is appropriate to say, “Please excuse me.” If you need to interrupt a conversation, you should say something like “I’m terribly sorry to interrupt.” If you are in a theater and need to pass by seated patrons, try “Please excuse me, but may I pass by?” or simply the shorthand, “Pardon me.” You may even find it easier, if not more pleasant, to get past fellow passengers in a crowded street car if you beg their pardon first.
By Get-It-Done Guy
One of the best ways to save time is to form relationships that help you reach your goals. I don’t just mean huge, lifelong relationships. I mean a two-minute investment that might make your day go a little smoother.
Many of us only interact with service people when we are upset. The service person experiences nothing but a stream of dissatisfied, grumpy people. By being polite, empathizing with them, and treating them like a fellow human being, you can form a connection.
Then when you need that extra glass of water on the plane, or would like an extra pillow for your hotel room, you’re not a random, demanding stranger. They’ll actually enjoy helping you out, and you’ll enjoy their help. It’s a win-win that will often get you what you want, when you want it, faster than you expected.
Strike up a friendship with your local deli cashier, get a sandwich quick when you're in a bind. (Tom Walter/Flickr)
I do this everywhere. As a result, when I’m late to a meeting and need a quick lunch, a phone call to my local deli gets my order to the front of the line. The support rep at the phone company helps me add services and keep my old pricing plan, even though that plan is obsolete and is not supposed to be renewed.
You have to be sincerely interested in connecting with the other person in order for this to work, but relationships are often the difference between struggling to get things done and having things flow smoothly and effortlessly.